"Since avoiding pain entirely is impossible, take heart in knowing that we belong to One who offers to use our pain in miraculous ways for our good. God takes our sorrow and transforms it into something beautiful. When we turn from the pain and focus on God, we find strength and power to endure. But that's not all. When we've made it to the other side of a trial, we will receive the joy of knowing that we are - thank God-still here! We have made it through our dark night, and we will be stronger and wiser for it.
And then something astounding will occur: our lives will emit God's radiance. Our lives will glow in confirmation-His faithfulness has now been tested and proven. We will then be filled with His light, a light that can illuminate the road of other travelers. We will have found a purpose we never knew existed-something beneficial and good, something that has great worth-and when we fulfill it, we will be rewarded with immense joy."
(Autism's Hidden Blessings: Discovering God's Promises for Autistic Children & Their Families by: Kelly Langston)
Thank you Mrs. Langston for saying what I wanted to say better than I could think to say it.
If you are struggling with grief right now, read this passage several times, and let it sink into your heart. Then let God heal you, strengthen you, and give you His joy.